Confessions of an Amateur Archer

God blessed me last week to be a guest blogger on an amazing woman of God’s webpage. So… GUESS WHO’S MY FIRST GUEST BLOGGER? Yep! I’ve returned the blessing & invited author of “Wait on God,” speaker and blogger Briana G. Whitaker (www.brianagwhitaker.com) to share her heart . She is a believer with a gift to help single women learn how to WAIT ON GOD for His Best. Her following blog as a NEW MOM seeking to aim her newborn arrow in the right direction is HOPE-filled for the waiting-to-be-a mom, soon-to-be mom, newborn mom and even the veteran mom. Please… read it and share your comments for her to read. Briana… thank you so much for sharing.

new archer 2You can call me an amateur archer because I’m new at this whole mommy thing.

Along with my newness has come a few questions. How do I get my six-month-old on a consistent feeding and sleeping schedule? How do I get him to sleep through the night? How do I balance being a mom, a working woman and a wife? And here’s the biggie. How do I balance older women’s advice, the pediatrician’s recommendations, online resource information, and my own maternal instincts when it comes to raising my child? With all of these questions going around in my head, I can’t help but to wonder if I’m doing everything I need to do during the early stages of my son’s life. And what about when he gets older?

There’s so much violence and negativity going on in the world these days. It can be tough to raise a child period–not to mention a black male child in this society. More questions arise. How will I prepare him for the inevitable unfair treatment he will face? How do I shield him from the negative influences that come from television and other media outlets? How do I make sure that the issues today’s children face, like academic and behavioral struggles, don’t become my son’s issues? How can I create an environment that will encourage him to love the things of God more than the things of the world? I will admit It overwhelms me to think about it, but thank God for the Holy Spirit.

Each day with the Holy Spirit’s help I am learning that parenthood, like everything else in a believer’s life, must be done by faith. Habakkuk 2:4 NLT says,

Look at the proud! They trust in themselves, and their lives are crooked. But the righteous will live by their faithfulness to God.

I like this verse because it provides an answer to the questions that often plague my mind as a new parent. I am not foolish enough to think that my husband and I can manage raising our son independent of God. We need Him on our side, aiding us in the entire process. It is crucial that we stay in constant fellowship with the Father in order to receive His instructions on what to do as parents. When we do that, trusting and fully relying on Him for our daily needs and guidance, He provides. No matter how simple or mindless the task (changing a diaper) or how difficult the task (establishing that blessed feeding and sleeping schedule), it must all be done in faith. Faith is how we’re revived to keep persevering when we make mistakes with our children (and we will); it is how we are nourished up by the Lord to continue pouring wisdom into our children’s lives from a full vessel; it is how we are preserved with long life so that we can witness their lives into adulthood; and it is how we are restored to provide order and peace for our children after being exposed to the chaos in the world.

So, what is a practical way one can exercise her faith as a mother? I wholeheartedly believe in the power of confession as an act of faith. When I first found out I was pregnant, I began putting the Word of God to work on my son’s behalf by writing and speaking it over him daily. The reason I did this was because there was potential for problems with my pregnancy. I had a history of fibroid tumors and had already undergone a myomectomy (major surgery to remove them) a few years prior, which meant automatically that a C-section would have to be done. I was also diagnosed with gestational diabetes that had to be closely monitored near the end of my pregnancy. I didn’t want to leave my son’s health and well-being to chance, so I stood on the Word of God that promises I can have what I say (Mark 11:22-24 KJV).

And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God.For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

Every morning like clock work I declared, “This is a healthy, prosperous, and graceful pregnancy–no complications involved. My baby will be born with all ten fingers and ten toes and all five senses in full operation. I come against miscarriage, still birth, and premature delivery. All is well with me and our baby. I will carry this baby to full term and deliver with no complications. I command every tissue, organ, bone, and bodily function in this baby to line up with the perfect will of God. I come against any genetic birth defects. Spinabifida, sickle cell, and down syndrome have no place in my baby and cannot attach itself to my unborn fetus. I command my uterus to function in the perfection in which it was created. My uterus and my entire body will respond properly to the baby growing inside of it. I command every fibroid to be dissolved and rooted out of my body in Jesus name and cause no harm to my baby. There will be a good report at every prenatal checkup. No weapon formed against me or my baby will prosper. We have the victory in Jesus name, and God gets all the glory! God will direct the doctors that perform our checkups and the doctor who delivers the baby. My husband and I will be on one accord in parenting decisions and will raise this baby in the fear and admonition of the Lord. In Jesus name. Amen!”I can testify that each and every word I spoke was manifested in the birth of my son exactly as the Lord promised. God. Did. It! I still confess the Word of God over my son’s life to this day, but with a different focus on where he is now and on his future. I believe that God will show himself faithful in those things as well. So how does this relate to aiming arrows? I guess you can say that although I am new at this whole mommy thing, I am well on my way to aiming my little boy arrow towards God with my bow of words. And if I can do it, anyone can.Now let’s converse. I’d love to hear how any of these things I’ve mentioned (new parenting questions, appropriating the feedback of others, making declarations over your child, etc.) relate to you and your parenting process. So please share!headshot in red smaller

Briana G. Whitaker is the author of the award winning book Wait on God: What Every Single Woman Should Know to Receive God’s Best. She is also a speaker, counselor, a wife, a mother and most importantly a born-again believer in Christ. For the past 10 years, she has faithfully served as the leader of the Young Women in Action Ministry at Enon Missionary Baptist Church in Sumter, South Carolina under the leadership of Pastor Stanley E. Hayes, Sr. and Elect Lady Julie Ann Hayes. Her mission is to be a positive example to the young women and girls within her ministry and in her daily life by practicing godly character and virtue. She enjoys writing and encouraging people, especially women, to seek God’s best for their lives by giving Him their best. Her writing experiences include eight years as a print journalist in the U.S. Army Reserves, seven years as a middle school language arts teacher, and maintaining an online blog, where she believes that everyone can benefit from God’s way every day. She is a living witness that waiting on God works. You can subscribe to Briana’s blog at www.brianagwhitaker.com. You can also follow Briana on Facebook at www.facebook.com/brianagwhitaker and Twitter @brianagwhitaker.

One thought on “Confessions of an Amateur Archer

  1. I enjoy reading your blog because you continue to stretch the importance of prayer and how it aid you in every decision you make. I’m about to be a mom-first time mom-and when I found out that I was pregnant I was excited but I was sad because I was having a child out of wedlock. It is the one thing that I didn’t wanted to happen and so I began to hide my pregnancy. I was ashame but God open my eyes to see a bigger picture and he uses my mentor to help me in this process. I wanted to break this generational curse but it is something I cannot do within myself. Yes I was engage but I wasn’t married as
    yet so it was eating me alive. My perspective begins to change rather than focusing on the negative I began to focus on the positive. I didn’t do this all by myself so I am really happy for strong minded believers who constantly bring the Word of God.
    I enjoy reading your post so thank you for sharing.

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